Thursday, September 24, 2009

Waiting on the Lord is Worth the Wait

I had to learn the hard way about waiting on God. I had to learn that it is not in my timing but God's perfect timing.

My Husband Wayne:

I was 44 when my husband and I met for the first time. He was the van driver for the church my mother is a member of. I would visit my mother's church when they had specials or my pastor was away.

Wayne was just another member of that church to me. I knew he drove the van because I had seen him delivering the elderly members. But that was all I knew about him. Nothing really stuck out about him. He was nice to me, but then again, he was nice to everyone.

I on the other hand was a stand offish kind of visitor. I mean, I had my own church I belonged to and I was married to this awful man who kept me under his thumb.

If I was too long at the grocery store, he was on the cell phone wondering where I was. I had no friends because no one liked my husband and would not come around. The last time I had had a visitor, my husband sent me to my room to talk with her because he didn’t want to be bothered. How embarrassing that was to have my husband talk to me that way in front of a guest.

I had married this man because I was a widow at 35, raising 2 boys and they needed a father. Or so I thought. As much as I was into church, I neglected to see my Father in Heaven as being sufficient.

One day, a well meaning member of my church told me that I needed a husband to help me raise my boys. After all, boys need a man to look up to, and to help make them men. I mistakenly listened and then started feeling the same way. Never did until that seed was planted. (be careful who and what you let get spoken into your life) Well, not really knowing how to pray for a husband, I asked what I should pray for. This well meaning friend told me to pray for what would make me happy. Another mistake, I should have been praying for who God would have me to marry.

What would make me happy was someone TALL, DARK and HANDSOME. Oh and of course went to church. (didn’t asked for saved, just that he went to church)

To make a long story short, I got just what I prayed for. My new husband, Gary, was just that. TALL, DARK, HANDSOME and went to church. I soon found out after we married that he totally took the part in the bible where the man is the head of the household, to heart. But not the way God intended. He ruled over me and the kids like a military tyrant. We could not go anywhere; do anything unless he thought it would benefit him in some way. Oh, we went to church. Looked like the perfect family. But no one saw the holes in the walls from when he lost his temper. No one noticed when the van go repossessed because he would not pay the bills. And oh, I had better never ask him where all the money went ever again. Not if I wanted to keep my head on my shoulders.

This went on for 7 years. I finally had had enough when he took church away from me. He made one excuse after another why we couldn’t go this Sunday or the next. Then the Sundays turned into months of Sundays. People from church would come to see how we where and I heard him one time tell them, that I was sick and they couldn’t come in right now.

The pastor saw thru the lies and had us come in for counseling. While the sessions where focused on me and what I was doing incorrectly (according to my husband) we would continue the sessions but as soon as the topic turned to Gary, the sessions abruptly stopped and we never went back. My pastor’s wife told me, that I did not have to stay with this man in an abusive situation. My thinking was that unless he committed adultery, I had to stay with him.

So glad I found out I was wrong. I may not have the biblical grounds to divorce him, but I did not have to live in the same house with him. So the boys and I moved out one day while Gary was at work. I soon found out that he was indeed having an affair and had been for the past 3 years of our marriage. And that gave me what I needed to divorce him.

Too embarrassed to go back to my church, I started going to my mother’s. There is nothing like the comfort of your mother and the Word of God in times of trouble. I started bible study, and even went to Sunday school. Soon, I was back to my old self, being social and making good Christian friends and finding God just how He is suppose to be.

God let me know that He had not left me. That He had always been there with me, but that He did not answer that prayer for a husband way back 7 years ago. I had miss read the signs. I had not heard from God really. I had gotten just what I had prayed for without asking God what He had wanted for me.

6 months after going to mom’s church on a full time, regular basis, I felt the call to join it.
Me and Bro. Wayne, the van driver, and another man named Jeff all went forward to join the church on the same day. That was Aug 27th 2006, and my Christian life has never been the same.

I discovered that you have to work at your Christian life just like you have to work at your business. Neither will grow if you just let it sit on the shelf.

Well as life would have it, being a single mother has it’s joys but it helps if you know someone who can fix things when they break. My car window went down one cold and rainy day, only to get stuck in the down position, and on the driver’s side, no less. So that Sunday, at church, I took my need before the congregation.

Listen, this is of MAJOR IMPORTANCE. When you have a need, that is what your church body is for. To help you out. Did you get that??? If you have a need, take it to your church.

By the end of the service that day, someone had come to me and told me about Bro. Wayne being able to fix just about anything any one could need fixing. So I asked him and sure enough, he was able to fix my window. That was December 2006.

In February 2007, Bro. Wayne ran behind my going out the back door of the church and asked me for my phone number. Imagine my surprise. Why on earth would this man want my phone number and I asked him as much.

He looked at me and laughed. He has an amazing laugh. And he said, “ Why does a gentleman ask for a ladies phone number?” Realizing that I had just asked a DUH!!! question, I began to laugh myself and gave him my number.

We started talking on the phone from that day on, for hours. We could talk about anything. A month later we had our first date. Well not a date really but we took a walk. It was wonderful. He had asked if he could speak to me after bible study one Wednesday evening. He wanted to take me for a walk. Wow, a walk??? Really??? No one had ever taken me for a walk before. It was so nice.

On August 27, 2007, Wayne asked me if I remember what that date was. I had to think back for a second. Then a big grin came on his face. As I looked up at him, it came to me. That date, Aug 27 was the date we joined Church a year earlier. He remembered it. I had not given it a second thought. And I kid you not, a little voice reminded me of something else.

That prayer I had prayed so many years ago for a husband. Tall, Dark, Handsome and goes to church. Yes, Lord I remember that prayer and I remember the results. No I will not pray that again and please forgive me for miss reading You.

The months went by and Wayne and I spent more and more time together. I even started letting him have time with my boys. Ryan was 17 and William was 10. They would go fishing, take in movies and have GUY time. I an learned to enjoy some much needed ME time.

During one of these Me times, I caught myself thinking about being married again. As fear struck my heart, I quickly put those thoughts away. I had been there, done that, twice even. My first husband, whom I loved dearly died at the age of 38. My second husband will go down in history as the biggest mistake of my life. I don’t need to make a strike 3 to know that I am just not meant to be married.

When Christmas 2007 came and went and Wayne did not bring up marriage, I thought that I was in the clear. I mean, we had been seeing each other for almost a year. If he didn’t ask me at Christmas time to be his wife, then marriage was that furthest thing from his mind and I was glad.

I was sitting on the couch watching a movie about 2 lovers when that prayer came to mind again. What Lord???? Why am I still thinking about something I no longer want? It was like the Lord saying to me, “Pray it again, only this time, pray it CORRECTLY!”

Pray it correctly??? I had to think for a minute. Okay, so If Lord, I was to pray that prayer again, this is how I would pray it.

"Dear Lord, You said that we can come to the Throne of Grace boldly and ask what we will, in Jesus name and You will hear and answer our pray according to Your will. So I am praying for a husband, Lord. Someone, who is Tall, Dark and Handsome, who also goes to church, AND loves You with his whole heart. A man that will treat me the way You would have Your daughter to be treated. In Jesus name, Amen."

That is how I would pray it Lord, if I was to pray it again. And I left it at that.

Well, wouldn’t you know it? God has His own agenda and He doesn't ask us for our opinion on the subject.

Wayne asked me to marry him on New Years Eve 2007. Well really New Years Day, Midnight, Jan 1st 2008. I was totally floored. I cried and laughed and looked up and God.

Wow, what a wonderful God You are!!!!

We married January 13, 2008. Just stayed after church that day and got married. It was so nice. No fanfare, no big thing made over us. Just the presence of the Lord and close friends and family. A wondrous and marvelous day.

The day I learned, that waiting on God is truly worth the wait.

Sunday, September 6, 2009

LLLS Product Reviews

Product Reviews of things I have purchased from the NING sites I frequent.

As you all know I am an avid Shopping Ning supporter. So I was tickled to death when Karren Haller started this group on LLLS. Boy, do I have some reviews for you. Enjoy!!!

Please note that these 6 reviews are not in any particular order or frequency of purchase.

Kyani is a juice, drops and pills combo, sold in sets or individually. A super food, nutritional product that can do wonders for the consumer. I do not pretend to understand how these 3 products work, but I can tell you that they really do what they are reported to do.

Any of you who have been on the chats, know that I have Lupus. This horrible disease has limited my mobility for over 3 years now. The doctors had me on 3 medications to control my stiffness and swelling that left me a virtual zombie. I am a wife and mother and work on a fast pace assembly line. So I had 2 choices. Take the medication and sleep my life away. Or try to work and have any kind of life while dealing with pain and stiffness and swelling. This last year, I chose the medication because the pain was just too great to deal with any longer.

Somehow I found the Ning sites and joined a chat room one night and heard Jessica and others talk about the products they sold. Kyani caught my attention right away. So I came back to the chats a few more times and decided to take Jessica up on her offer of free samples and a 30 money back guarantee. Jessica has a genuine love for helping people.

It has been over 2 months now and I am medication free and feeling great!!! I can HIGHLY recommend this product.

Beaded Jewels - by Lexi Butler

I make Dish Gardens. One of the things I like to do with them is put a single special stone in them. I get many of these stones from Lexi Butler who owns and operates Beaded Jewels Lexi has a wonderful eye for the workings of making jewelry. She was taught from a very young age the importance of good craftsmenship. She can also make custom pieces and even made me a set of ear rings that matched perfectly to a necklase and bracelet set that I have had for years. Check out her site and even call her. You will just love her German accent. She is a very funny lady. I just love her.

I had these heels that my husband swares you could use for sand paper. He was right. I never wore sandles because of them. Again during a chat, a lady named Kate introduced her hand made products. She has all sorts of things but the one thing on her site that caught my attention was Minty Footy Salve. Okay, I had to give it a try. I mean, where I live, we have Wallie World and Kmart but that is about it. So my chances of finding something that would work on these feet of mine is quite slim. All I can say is, not only are my feet smooth and soft now, but Hubby laughs and says "OOOO, minty fresh!!!" LMAO

IT WORKS - Sheri Carpenter
I thought, what a funny name for a company, until I tried them. Guess what? It works!!! I am a loyal customer of Sheri's for the wraps. I am down from a size 24 to a size 2o in 3 months. And I haven't changed the way I eat. Well, unless you count the amount of water I now consume. Let me tell ya, when she told me the water I was going to have to drink I almost decided against the product. I don't like water. Water is for bathing in.

Well after the first month with the wraps and I did NOT drink the water like she said to, I thought the wraps didn't work. Then on ONE OF THE CHATS see a pattern here??? CHATS ???? Any way, a lady named Cindy talked me into drinking more water. So month 2 I drank more water. Now I won't say I drank every bit of what I was suppose to drink, but it was quite a bit more than I normally do. I lost a whole pant size. So this past month, more water and another pant size.

So come on ladies, how much harder do you have to make it to loose the weight. I am not one for exercises. I work on an assembly line for Christ's sake. I can not walk any more than I already do in a full 8 hours at work. 5 miles at last count. NO LIE. Sheri has product you can try out. But I am telling you, become a loyal customer for 3 months. See for your self that IT WORKS.

Do you have complexion problems??? Look tired and you aren't??? Dark circles under your eyes??? Call on Denise. She recommended her eye gel that I keep in the fridge. It is firming up the bags and taking away the dark circles. I will be back into my contacts in no time. She also sells natural soaps that I am about to make a second purchase of. It does not dry out my skin.

See, I am finding all the things I need by either listening in on the chats and or participating in them. I am not saying you have to be on every single chat that comes out but it wouldn't kill you to be on at least 2 or 3.
Jackie Ladner has one on http://www.marketingmammas.ning/ on Sunday nights at 7 or 8 pm check you local time and

Jessica Mutuku has one each weekday night at 8 on:
Nanc Johnson at various time thru out the week.

There are many wonderful product out there for almost every need you may have. And you can meet some really wonderful people and make lasting friendships on these sites as well. Just go to and see what is there. Maybe we will meet sometime too.
Thanks for reading,
Dish Gardens by Lenisa